Let's talk about sex

A class review

sonnydee — Mon, 01 May 2006 04:07:56 +0000

I rather enjoyed most of this class. It was somewhat of a relief to learn about something interesting, vs the rest of my classes aka calculus. I really enjoyed that the class had lots of facts and was based on a lot of law and controversial topics.

I found everyone's different view points very interesting. I really enjoyed all of the debates that went on in everyone's blog.

I found that the most difficult obstacle in this course was technology or [my knowledge] there lack of. Its hard when your grade is based merely based on technology, and then you have problems. [/end rant]

Kudos

And the lightbulb turns on over Washington

sonnydee — Mon, 01 May 2006 03:49:57 +0000

Yes, Finally the government comes up with a way to prevent the sex sites and erotic teletubies from popping up when my 7 and 10 year old nephews search the sites. Really it's about time. It's just to bad it's still a little far from reality. There is what a 100 gazillion websites there, it's going to be hard. Or so everyone says.

Please correct me if I am wrong, maybe I'm not up on my technology, but hasn't AOL's parental controls been doing this for a while? Isn'tabout time the government took a step there. No, I'm not agreeing with everything in the article about the government controls, but honestly, it's about time something was done. Unless I type in "porn" or some synonym.. I really don't want to see something like that.

Now can we PLEASE get rid of those stupid emails with the subject like "hey haven't seen you since high-school" then open up to a full frontal nude of a rather unattractive person? Because really, I have my filter set to the highest level, and those little sneaks always seem to get through asking me to grow my penis… but guess what ladies and gentlemen, I'm female.

Bill Clinton aka. the gateway for lax obsenity laws.

sonnydee — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 20:55:16 +0000

I found this post; and found the part about Clinton paving the way for lax obsenity laws, before Bush got his scruffy hands on our society.

Further investigation lead me to this link, where I found this information: "Our efforts were to no avail. During the first six years of the Clinton administration, federal obscenity law enforcement declined by over eighty percent. In fiscal year 1997, there were only six prosecutions in which the lead charge was a violation of federal obscenity laws. In fiscal year 1998, the number was eight."

The same link also goes on to have a quote that admits the porn industries admission to the idea that the easy ride was over as Clinton left the Presidential administration.

But I suppose you can't expect a President who's [almost] entire media covering was about his sexual happenings with a women besides his wife.

sonnydee — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 15:42:51 +0000

When reading through Mr. Lucas's blog not to much surprised me… the normal ratings of anyone with a strong opinion. But one thing did strike me as odd, for what seems to be a well educated man. Having sex, and not caring weather the person is HIV positive as long as there is a condom. My biggest question to him is, what if it breaks? What if it comes off? To me there are to many what ifs to be taking that chance. HIV is not something that you can just take a morning after pill and poof it will no longer occur. It's something that will determine the rest of your life, and death for that matter. Unfortunately we are not all Magic Johnson, we can't get the cure for AIDS. This doesn't pertain just the gay community. But to anyone that is having sex, I want to know if there is potential for my partner to give me a rather life changing and threatening disease.What is the argument against it? Condoms work? Well according to

Brown
University there is a chance of "1 in 105 during anal sex" that the condom will break. And that is IF the condom is put on correctly. So while Mr. Lucas finds no reason to "freak out" when someone is positive as long as there is a condom is involved.. I'll continue to ask and protect myself in any way possible.***************So I suppose my question to Mr. Lucas is this, why is there no reason to freak out if there is still potential risk of contracting the disease?

Chatrooms=ability to be an adult

sonnydee — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 14:39:22 +0000

Chat rooms are one of the easiest ways for a young child to talk to different people. They can enter a chat room that claims to have similar interest, state their age, location, gender, and have a conversation. They no longer have a face, a past, or essentially a true personality, they can be whom ever they want to be that day. Yes, we can talk about the other end of how a sexual predator can prey on children in this situation, but let's think about the benefit the child is trying to gain.

A 12-13 year old is now allowed to enter an "adult" conversation. They can pretend to be much more mature they they actually are. They can pretend to be much more experienced then they actually are. And they can turn on a side of their personality that they don't want anyone else to see, and where they might have otherwise been scrutinized.

In my opinion these elements are the reason why children like to enter chat rooms and give into these sexual predators.

The wrong idea of sex

sonnydee — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 04:10:09 +0000

I found the subject of the misconceptions given to children through viewing porn to be very interesting. It made me wonder why children are turning to porn for their sex education. I came up with a few possible explanations: 1. Parents are replying to heavily on television to be the new teachers to the current generation. This means, figuring they have seen the X-rated scenes on the multitude of channels their current satellite provider offers. Therefore not having to answer the age of question of "Mommy/Daddy, where do babies come from?" 2. Children are exposed to more at a younger age, and becoming "mini adults" sooner. "Mini-adults" including the interest in sex, therefore requiring the knowledge before society is ready to provide it, and therefore they seek it on their own time. 3. The advancements in technology have made children more knowledgeable and information more accessible. Wherein as soon as a child learns how to "google" and their hormones begin to bubble, internet porn is the easiest answer to the tough questions they would have had to ask their parents.

Advertising vs. Porn

sonnydee — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 04:07:59 +0000

Taking off clothes while engaging in sexual activity=porn; making out nearly naked while displaying the CK symbol=advertising jeans … This I suppose is again touching on my last post on censorship of children, and the fine line people seem to like to bend. While we must block the internet, worry ourselves in a tizzy about the porn they might see when we are not watching over the shoulder, on the coffee table sits the newest edition of [insert generic magazine name here] with the interesting articles and the exciting advertising.

In this magaizine, there may be an article about the newest software for your tv to block the "adult" channles, and on the next page with be and ad for something like this.

How many of you want to go by the geans? Now, how many of you want to engage in sexual activity?

sonnydee — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 04:07:11 +0000

Lec 11

I found what the proffessor to be saying about censorship iin the libraries to be interesting. After further google investigation I found this article. Although it dates back to 2003, I thought the ideas of censorship with books and that avalibility on the interenet to be interesting and relevent. Although it has been three years, the debate has not changed. Where is the line drawn on the internet, how do we protect children for the crudness of the world, and how much can we censor without violating the first ammenment?

Ok, well I'm going to say it.. and I'm sure there will be some dropped jaws. But let's face it people… we can not protect children from everything. You are not going to stop you children from learning about sex, you are not going to stop them from getting hurt, or finding out bad things. Well, I suppose there is always the possibility of a bubble, or moving to some desert island… Children ARE going to find out things are not made out of lollie pops and gum drops. People are going to hurt them, they are going to see bad things, it's just inevitable.

What needs to happen is not total censorship and total control, but instead a sence of responsibility and moral understanding. To offten children are sheltered from the nasty things that happen; and when they finally do leave the mother den, they are sure in for a shocker. In my opinion what needs to happen instead, is a way of coping, and teaching the child to choose for him/herself to do what is "right" and "wrong." Parents expecations are to low of their children; raise the bar higher.

Instead of saying "O, Tommy, that doesn't happen, it's just make-believe." We need to work on "Well, Betty-Sue, there are some nasty things that happen, but we know we are better than that, and try not to be involved with that. There is always a better solution."

This is of course, NOT to say, that we should be bringing up porn pictures to children, and that there should be no censorship. This merely was to say that many times people take censorship a few levels to high in this crazy world of the internet.

*Same disclaimer! I'm glad my blogs are finally able to post.

Is Cybersex really cheating?

sonnydee — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 04:05:58 +0000

Yes! I think when someone moves past fantasising about someone/thing else and takes action on it, it is cheating. Many people describe the act of looking as "window shopping" meaning that you can look but you can't touch. But going further into this analogy; window shopping also implies knowing nothing of the product except the beauty of the product and where it comes from (the store), but you do not know any of the specifics, nor will you see the product again. Yet the act of actually shopping requires time and money.

The same can be said for a relationship or the act of cheating. It is one thing to look at a passing person but it is another thing to stop and talk to said person. The Internet is not much different. Sure, you may lurk on MySpace.com or the up and coming Facebook.com, the act of actually messaging the object of attraction is wrong, and to engage is cybersex opens a whole new can of wrong.

No matter the medium, cheating is cheating; The internet is not an excse, it's a whole new tool.

*Same disclaimer of blogs not posting!

And here begins a post of opposites

sonnydee — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 04:05:07 +0000

The effect that porn has on our society is obviously in constant debate. The website on the myths of porno was very interesting. It's obvious one-sided presentation, did not do much for me.

Although the effect of porn is significant, that is not the only driving factor. An addiction is merely a weakness in someone's will, unless they decided that they no longer want to be involved with in their subject of addiction. To end a relationship saying "sorry I find porn more entertaining than you." Is just an excuse for a further underlying problem in the relationship.

Although, the argument against "Women who becomes strippers and hookers choose those careers, so who are we to judge them?" brought up some good points, I think it misses the big picture. Yes there are problems with sex slaves, but the are few and far between compared. And as far as Christine's story, that she thought there was nothing else she could do, she proved herself wrong when she got a real job.

Ok.. this is where I step away from opposites and come back to reality.

I think many people say that they began prostituting because they were kicked out at a young age, and had no means to support themselves. Honestly I think that is a lazy excuse. There are many women's shelters throughout all cities. They provide a bed and an address. There are constantly places hiring, even for a person with little to no education. And in every town there is a McDonald's. Although many of these places might not be the nicest places to work, it's got to be better then laying on you back for meaningless sex everyday, and possibly a couple times a week.

If you are doing it, then you must not mind it that much, because otherwise you would find SOME way of getting around it!

*DISCLAIMER: This will be the first post of many that are way behind.. I'm not sure why, but NONE of my post were posting for a while.. and I just rewrote them ALL. Please excuse my tardiness and total lack of technology knowledge… Hopefully they will all work!